Morning Coffee Feminism: Risk Assessment and Dying in the Park

Content Note: assault, sexual assault, rape, trauma, abuse, violence, rage

I had to calm down before I could write this post. It’s taken about a week and a half since I cracked, crying, unable to stop, unable to believe what so many people seem to think.

I mention this not to demonstrate my emotional fragility (I’m actually in pretty good shape), but to emphasise a point before we go any further: this is personal. I don’t just mean for me – I mean for women in general, or for people socialised as women. It’s personal, and it has a deep, heavy weight to it, one that I didn’t even realise until I finally caved under the onslaught.

But for people not affected by it, it seems to be a thought experiment. A mild sense of discomfort, a desire to play “Devil’s Advocate”, to run the numbers, to make a wry face and look offended. They dive eagerly into the discussion, tossing aside heart-wrenching personal experiences, ripping apart horrifying statistics of abuse and suffering, insisting that they and they alone are the logical ones, the sensible ones, and they demand attention right now.

This makes the discussion inherently unbalanced, right from the start. Continue Reading


“A Normal Body” And Other Fairy Tales

When I go and see my personal trainer (also an exercise physiologist), or my physiotherapist, or my podiatrist, I inevitably end up apologising for and explaining my body, and how it’s put together.

These people have been treating me for a while, and it’s also literally their job to observe how I move. They know how my body is put together. Their job is to help me move more efficiently, with less pain.

I really don’t have to awkwardly, anxiously explain that my single-leg squat is super wobbly because my right leg has quite noticeable internal rotation and the leg is permanently twisted because years of bad motor habits mean that the bone and muscle have just grown that way. It isn’t possible to correct it – merely compensate for it.

So many exercises look awful when I do them, because my leg rotates inwards. I wobble. My back arches and hyperextends unless I’m looking in a mirror (or having a really good proprioception day. I do have those. They’re amazing, and everything feels easy).

I don’t have to feel awkward and anxious, but I often do.

I keep falling into this trap.

If I do these exercises, my body will move properly.

If I keep working at it, it will work as it is supposed to.

Everything will come together as it should.

I only recently caught myself doing this, and realised how incredibly misguided this thought pattern is. I can’t blame this on my support team – they never speak to me like this or imply that they’re trying to change my body. At some point or other, every one of them has made it clear that the goal is to try and get to the point where my body can do what I need it to do, in the most efficient and least painful way that it can, given that it has a few quirks.

I’ve been unconsciously thinking (up until recently) that there’s one perfect way for my body to move and function, some ideal system that I can get closer and closer to, like the Platonic bone structure and muscle activity that will mean I’m effectively not hypermobile anymore.

Not only will that never happen, but it doesn’t even make sense to think that way.

I have multiple chronic illnesses, and treating them results in conflict between the affected systems.

Core muscle activation is an excellent example.

Strengthening core muscles is a crucial part of managing Ehlers-Danlos / Hypermobility Syndrome. This is the area where most people are a bit weak, leading to back problems and other joint overcompensations – and for bendy people, it’s much, much worse. The collagen connecting our vertebrae is just as stretchy and unstable as the rest of the collagen in our bodies and we are terribly prone to our spines moving in ways that they just aren’t supposed to (not in terms of a Platonic ideal, but in terms of load bearing function).

I also have Crohn’s Disease, and visceral hyperalgesia stemming from that Crohn’s. Hyperalgesia means “too much pain” – basically, my intestines think they’re in pain all the time, even when there’s not necessarily a proximal cause. They’ve become sensitised to pain signals because of the long term effect of the Crohn’s.

My intestines are either inflamed most of the time, or they think they’re inflamed and behave accordingly (massive oversimplification, but work with me here).

It is not recommended that you compress your core if you have Crohn’s Disease, because it will hurt like a motherfucker, and also if you have visceral hyperalgesia, that will feed the sensitisation occurring in that region.

Whenever you tighten your abdominal muscles, particularly the deeper set that wraps around your spine, you are compressing your core.

So. Whenever I try to prevent back pain, I facilitate stomach pain. Whenever I slack off on core compression to ease the pressure on my stomach, I move so awkwardly and the angle of force on my joints is such that I get back pain, hip pain and so on, and simply moving is very tiring because the whole system is just incredibly inefficient in a mechanical sense.

(I’m aware that I’m implying here that I’m fainting away from constant agony. That’s absolutely not the case! My abdominal pain is very well managed these days, and I get plenty of low-level warnings from my joints before it gets unmanageable, so I have time to get my backside into gear and start working out properly – or take a break, if that’s what is needed. It’s really not that bad. I’m just trying to highlight the conflict between the two systems)

This also happens regarding my low blood pressure. I’m supposed to wear compression garments to help with the fact that the large blood vessels in my abdomen are just a bit crap (again, due to those gosh darned stretchy proteins). Compression helps blood move back up my body from my legs, up to my heart and brain when otherwise I’d just end up with exhaustion, light-headedness and brain fog.

Mind you – and you’ve probably figured out the catch – as stated above, deliberately compressing your abdomen when you have inflammatory bowel disease can be uncomfortable. It can also hurt like a motherfucker.

So. I pace myself with the compression garments.

The human body (actually, any complex multicellular organism) is a marvel of interconnected systems and patterns. We marvel at it all the time, in awe of how the hip bone connects to the thigh bone and the thigh bone connects to the shin bone, and it’s led to a bit of a hippy-dippy idea that all these systems will strive to work in harmony with one another, if only we can find that one perfect piece of health advice.

Unfortunately, that’s bullshit.

Body parts do what body parts do, physically, in response to chemical changes and application of force. It’s physics. My spine doesn’t give a crap about my intestinal tract, and my small bowel has no sodding interest in the pain in my hips.

What is right and appropriate for one system is a stupid idea and maybe actively harmful for another.

I could feel defeated by this. I could feel that I’m just fucked coming and going. I could use it as a cover to give up, to say “Well, damned if you do and damned if you don’t, so I don’t even care anymore.” And to be honest, I don’t know that I’d judge anyone else for that response. It’s fair, and it’s human.

Instead, I had this realisation, and I found it empowering.

Because, if that’s true – if there isn’t an answer that will untwist my leg and support my spine and heal my small intestine – then here’s no perfectly healthy, functional body. There’s no perfect ideal in which every part of me will work without rubbing up against the world in some difficult way. There’s no one secret plan to make all the systems work together. You just do the best you can, and work with the systems you can. Your body will do what it can in response to stimulus that it gets from the outside world, or from internal systems; and a lot of that’s not up to you.

What you can do is try to make some of it a little smoother, a little more manageable, a little less painful and awkward.

And suddenly: that little bit that I can do feels even more significant. It’s not one small step on the road to perfection: it’s me exerting some level of control over a difficult situation and experiencing victories that are, relative to what is possible, pretty damn magnificent.

You know what, it takes the fucking pressure off.

I can stop trying – however unconsciously – to make my body normal and just make it work.


ADHD Coping Mechanisms and “Masking” Behaviour

Getting a diagnosis of ADHD at age 36 with a PhD and two degrees under my belt has thrown me for a loop, and no mistake. Of course, I increased the intensity of my reading, trying to understand what my brain is doing, why it makes life hard, and how the hell I got this far before I fell apart (i.e.: the past three years have been a disaster from an ADHD perspective).

It turns out that there are a lot of ways that people with ADHD can cope with their problems, mask the symptoms (and I’m still ashamed and embarrassed by a bunch of them, which I need to work through), and generally delay diagnosis. Even qualified psychiatrists can be fooled by these coping mechanisms, thinking that a person is coping a lot better than they are. Continue Reading

On Diagnosing Others: Pitfalls, Temptations, and Considerations

The last couple of years have been a glorious roller coaster of diagnosis, treatment, and rapid changes to my quality of life. I started out as a person who was constantly exhausted and in pain and unable to focus on anything, stressed and overwhelmed, watching my life slide away from me while I tried to get things done and failed, needing to rest and work out and rest and work out and everything else fell by the wayside.

It’s been frustrating, miserable, and overwhelming. It’s eaten money, and time, and career opportunities. I leaned heavily on Husband and my wonderful friends to drag myself through it all, trying to find a way to be awake, to not be in pain, to concentrate long enough to succeed at something. And without those friends, and certainly without Husband, I don’t think I’d have reached the end of this ride (not that I’m necessarily at the end, but I have all the big pieces of the puzzle).

And yet, I can’t regret it, because now I understand the shit that my body and my brain are pulling on me.

I understand it; and I can treat it. I won’t ever make my body or my brain normal – that’s neither achievable nor, in many ways, desirable (although I’d kick Crohn’s Disease out without a second thought). What I can do is find medications for the symptoms that respond to medication, and find work arounds for the symptoms that don’t.

And I still have trouble – I’ll always have some trouble – but it’s better. It’s much better.

It’s left me with a niggling problem though.

I want everyone else who has these problems – all of which can be incredibly difficult to track down and diagnose – to get help as well. I want their lives to get better. That’s a trap. Generally speaking, people need to be left to manage their own medical situation, for so many reasons. There’s nothing more infuriating than the tenth person who has asked if you’ve tried yoga for your genetic musculoskeletal disorder – and you’re lucky if that stops at ten people. People want to help, and it’s a right fucking pain.

No. Multivitamins will not fix my autoimmune disease, thank you very fucking much for your heartfelt advice.

I don’t want to be that person. And there’s a natural tendency, when you’ve just been diagnosed with a problem, and when you have a solution, to see that problem everywhere you look. You’ve been given all these hints and clues, and now your eyes can’t help but find them all over the place. The safest thing to do is to zip your lip.



None of these things that I have – the Crohn’s, the ADHD, the hypermobility syndrome – are rare conditions. ADHD is estimated to occur in 2-8% of the population, and symptomatic forms of hypermobility syndrome could be as high as 10% (for varying degrees of severity), and is especially common in women. The overal incidence of inflammatory bowel disease (Crohn’s Disease and Ulcerative Colitis) in the Australian population is much lower, at an estimated 29.6 per 100,000 people (although that estimate was calculated in a 2010 paper). Which makes it uncommon, not rare.

And a lot of people can have these conditions without realising it. They just know their stomach hurts a lot sometimes for no apparent reason, or their vision goes black when they stand up too fast and they get really tired for no apparent reason, and they keep injuring their back or their ankles, or perhaps that they can’t focus or concentrate and they just keep procrastinating – and they feel so horrible and lazy, because why can’t they do things that seem so easy for everyone else?

And all your test results come back normal and nobody seems to believe you. You start to think it’s all in your head.

As it happens, a lot of common issues actually require some very specific tests.

Here’s the problem.

Apart from Crohn’s Disease – which, if not diagnosed, can legit actually kill you, although forms of CD that severe will usually inspire you to get that checked out anyway – these conditions are not going to cause your actual death.

Undiagnosed, unmanaged and untreated ADHD can make you thoroughly miserable and adrift in your life, feeling like you’re wasting your potential and constantly scrambling to keep up.

Undiagnosed hypermobility syndrome can leave you an exhausted, anxious mess with joint pain and freezing extremities who sometimes might pass out, or who might end up diagnosed with an anxiety disorder you don’t actually have (despite near-constant panic), and a whole laundry list of other weird things that turn up in a multi-systemic condition resulting from a defective family of proteins that is genuinely ubiquitous in the body (I will write a post on these other effects at some point).

Undiagnosed mild Crohn’s Disease is unlikely to kill you, but constant or near-constant or unpredictable abdominal pain is a miserable thing, and I have to say, being hospitalised every year or so for recurring abscesses is no picnic. Crohn’s Disease does also significantly increase your risk of bowel cancer, so it’s something you want to be aware of.

Getting these things picked up and sorted out is no picnic. Getting an adult ADHD diagnosis can be expensive and difficult – there’s still a little stigma in the psychiatric community against adult ADHD, and even more against diagnosing women – so you need to do a good deal of research to find a doctor who is even going to be open to treating you. Very few doctors have any understanding of hypermobility syndrome or the consequences it has on blood pressure, or even the severity of the problems that low blood pressure and orthostatic intolerance can cause – so that slides under the radar, and there are very few specialists that deal with it appropriately.

They are very expensive.

As to Crohn’s Disease? By the time I’d got that diagnosed, I’d had a colonoscopy, a gastroscopy, a CAT scan, an abdominal MRI, three fecal calprotectin tests (one of which came back normal) and a pill cam. The FC tests eventually – eventually – suggested a serious problem. A normal result is less than 50. A definitive result is over 100. I got results of 92, 12 – 12! – and 376. In that order. The pill cam eventually showed my Crohn’s, and also revealed why it was so difficult to find. It was so deep in my small intestine that it was beyond the range of the gastroscopy, and – while severe enough to cause very unpleasant symptoms – it hadn’t caused the sort of scarring and narrowing that would show up in an MRI or CAT scan.

And my story – as I understand it – is not uncommon. A lot of people with more severe symptoms have cryptic Crohn’s Disease that hides away.

Not all of these tests are bulk-billed by Medicare. The specialists certainly aren’t, as a rule.

All up, I’m out of pocket a few grand for diagnosis, testing, consults and so on. Not to mention a few non-PBS medications.

The fact is that – again, except for the Crohn’s – there are ways to cope with and manage hypermobility syndrome and ADHD without a formal diagnosis and prescription medication. People who don’t know they have ADHD often do know that they’re forgetful and easily distracted, and they come up with coping mechanisms. People with hypermobility syndrome might notice they feel better when wearing tighter clothes and doing regular core strengthening exercises, so they do that. They might wear bracing equipment when they work out, because they have “bad knees”. They might take various medications for their anxiety (although they might be a bit less effective if the cause of that anxiety is a defect in collagen and resulting blood pressure and adrenaline issues).

It won’t be worth the time and the money for everyone to look into these things.

But. Maybe it is.

What can I do without being an interfering, condescending, git? Given that I’m pretty sure I have a couple of friends with undiagnosed ADHD, and I can think of five women I know who might have hypermobility syndrome (ranging from “hmm, maybe,” to “oh my fucking god, you have this, I’m not even kidding, get thee hence”), it’s a real problem. I’m fortunate that in most of those cases, I’m close enough to these people to be able to say “soooo, this made me think of you, a bit, so, let me know if I’m being a pain but I thought you might be interested…”

But if I’m not close enough? I can’t do that. It’s neither fair, nor safe. People with chronic illness – even misdiagnosed chronic illness – have enough complicated shit to deal with without having to manage my excitable interest in their condition (unless they’re a close friend, in which case for the most part they’ve already signed up to the “Kate is a biologist and gets excited by weird shit, just roll with it until she shows us another cool picture of an octopus.”).


In those cases, all I can do is what I’m doing now.

I can share my experience. I can write about my symptoms. I can write about the symptoms that I, personally, don’t have, but which occur in other presentations of my conditions. I can share what I know about the diagnostic process. I can be open about medication, and be willing to answer questions.

And, sometimes, when I say “…and then that happens…” and someone blinks and their mouth drops open a bit and their response is, “Huh. So that’s not- that’s a thing? That… oh. Wow. Hm.” Or sometimes, they just laugh at me, and say, “but everyone gets that, that’s normal,” and when I explain that actually, no, not so much, there’s another jaw-drop moment.

Then I can direct their attention to resources, if they’re interested, or leave it alone, if they’re not, and they want to process for a bit and do their own research.

This is the best way I can help, without being a git. To talk about myself, and tell my own story, and make it clear that, if you’re concerned, you can ask me about it.

And to talk about how much fucking better life is when you get decent diagnosis and treatment, all the way from being in less pain right down to feeling less like you’ve been going mad because all your test results were normal and you thought it was all in your head.

Chances are it’s not all in your head.

You deserve to be listened to. You deserve help.

Ask away.

Diagnosis Roulette: Formally Bestowed the Title of “Bendy”

I’ve written frequently about how I’m a bendy individual, and how having a defective collagen gene or two has presented a multitude of difficulties and challenges. Ever since a physiotherapist first frowned at my feet and muttered under his breath, “Oh, where do we begin?” I’ve been aware that there’s something not quite right about how my body works.

For a long time, I thought there was nothing that could be done. I figured that all I could do was physiotherapy – strengthen the muscles that support my joints, build up my core strength in particular, make sure that I undertook activities that would train my dysfunctional proprioception (feedback from the rest of my body, knowing where I am in space, balancing).

A few years ago, I learned that hypermobility syndrome, or Ehlers-Danlos, depending on which moniker one ended up with, was a multi-systemic condition. This makes perfect sense. Collagen is a family of structural proteins distributed throughout the entire body. Defective collagen doesn’t just make you stretchy in your joints and skin: it affects temperature regulation, energy levels, immune response, gut function, urinary function, and so on. People with hypermobility syndrome can present symptoms from all of these areas or maybe just one or two.

But I still figured there was no point pursuing a formal diagnosis. It sounded expensive and troublesome.

I got talked around by two people, who pointed out that having a diagnosis would help me access help I needed if I ended up doing something truly wacky to my joints, and also pointed out that there were medications that could help with some of those weird extra symptoms.

Plus, I’d finally reached the point where I didn’t know what to do any more or how to manage the situation. I’d discovered that the day after running, I was wrecked. Absolutely useless. Horrifying fatigue. Full body ache. And I was convinced I wouldn’t be able to run any more, that as a bendy person, I’d be doing continued accumulating damage to my delicate tissues. All the online advice I saw strongly discouraged running. I was pretty devastated. I’ve worked really hard on being able to run, for a long time, and it’s one of my most intense personal achievements: I could never run as a kid. Never.

So, I took the specialist name I was given, I requested a referral from my GP, and I made an appointment.

I went in on a Friday morning, and the friendly nurse asked me a slew of questions about my history of fainting, migraine, allergies and various other things. I was fitted with a blood pressure monitor that I was required to wear for 24 hours as I continue my normal activities (yes, I took it to the gym), and a bunch of electrodes distributed across my torso to monitor my heart rate. This, I was required to wear for 36 hours.

I won’t lie, it was a pain in the fricken’ butt. The blood pressure monitor was constantly beeping whenever it was in a position that it didn’t like, the electrodes needed to be coddled whenever I moved too much, and two weeks and several showers later I’m still finding bits of electrode adhesive clinging to my skin.

It was worth it.

I went in on the Monday morning with the requisite hardware no longer attached to my person, and I spent the next hour and a half chatting to a very enthusiastic man about my entire strange history of illness and pain and discomfort and crappy balance and anxiety and so on and so forth.

Here’s the summary of how this went and what it means:

Actual Diagnosis

Under the pre-2017 diagnostic criteria, I would be readily diagnosed with Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, Hypermobility Type. Under the new criteria (which are quite weird), I wind up with “Benign Joint Hypermobility Syndrome”, which is a stupid name, as it feels profoundly ­un-benign, and it’s really not just about joints (we didn’t get through all the diagnostic stuff before we ran out of time so it is still technically possible I might qualify for EDS, but he thinks it unlikely).

Sidebar: Dentists

I’m just inserting this here, because it has been a bit useful. People who are bendy and have defective collagen often have quite thin and porous enamel on their teeth (I told you: collagen is everywhere). This makes dentist visits a lot more painful for them than for other people! Add in the fact that bendy people are often highly resistant to local anaesthetic and need more shots (I need 2-3 relative to a normal patient’s single injection), and that often those shots contain adrenaline and bendy people are sensitised to adrenaline (I explain this below), and you’ve got a situation just crying out for panic, pain, misery and tears.

Recently I went to my dentist for the six month clean and check-up, and I told her about this diagnosis. “Aha,” she said. She knew exactly what it meant, was familiar with the effects on enamel, adrenaline tolerance and anaesthetic resistance, and exactly how to deal with it. She’s always been good when I just say I have “sensitive teeth”, but this just made it very straightforward. So now I get the numbing gel (lots of it, and no adrenaline), and also get given a spiky massage ball to fiddle with when sometimes a clean does get briefly painful (which was very helpful. Maybe that has something to do with the ADHD, I don’t know, but it really helped!).

But now, onto perhaps the most overwhelming and life changing consequence of defective collagen.

Low Blood Pressure

One of the key and most significant effects of the defective collagen is low blood pressure and orthostatic intolerance (i.e.: you feel lightheaded when you stand up too fast, sometimes your vision blurs or becomes tunnel vision or goes black or grey, your heart rate ramps up, and sometimes you might actually pass out). I’ve always had that “ah crap, I stood up too fast” issue, and I frequently have to sit immediately back down if I don’t pace myself on it. I don’t even have a choice, my legs just fold. I sit down in the shower. When I was a teenager and in my early twenties, I sometimes had to crawl out of the shower and lie down on the bath mat for a bit.

This effect occurs because the collagen in your blood vessels is too stretchy to effectively constrict, and constriction of your blood vessels (vasoconstriction) is how the blood gets back up to your heart and your brain from the lower half of your body. Now, muscular movement helps with that pumping, which is why I can walk basically forever (or until my muscles or bad feet give out), but I can’t stand still for longer than five minutes (and even five minutes makes me feel horrible).

Low blood pressure makes you lightheaded, often nauseated, and exhausted. Constant low blood pressure results in brain fog, fatigue, sometimes weird pain like that tight pain in a “coat hanger” distribution, from your shoulders up to your neck and jaw (I always thought I’d just been tensing my jaw too much when I ran, but noooo!).

Low blood pressure can cause migraines. It can cause you to be extremely sensitive to cold, particularly in your extremities (I just spent a fortune on skiing socks to wear in my house, and also set up a radiant heater under my desk because I am so unbelievably tired of my feet going numb when I’m wearing two pairs of socks, ugg boots and an electric lap blanket, and the household heater is going). This condition is associated with Reynaud’s phenomenon, where blood vessels constrict in the extremities and fingers and toes turn white and blue due to lack of blood flow. Low blood pressure often means you hate the heat, because your body’s natural response to heat is to dilate your blood vessels, and your already low blood pressure plummets, and you get to feel exhausted and sick all the time.

So cold makes you miserable and causes pain, and heat makes you nauseated and exhausted and you fall over. This is why I have such a narrow optimal temperature range!

Important sub-heading: ANXIETY

Low blood pressure also causes anxiety. This is because when your blood pressure drops, your brain thinks you’re dying, and decides to pump up the adrenaline so you can escape the threat – except there’s no immediate physical threat, of course, and here you are with an unnecessary, constant flow of adrenaline, leaving you with the very clear symptoms of an anxiety disorder, complete with panic attacks. Understandably – and unfortunately – it gets misdiagnosed as an anxiety disorder, and then treatment of it is a bit iffy in terms of effectiveness.

I’ve always had a bit of anxiety, and some days it’s dreadful enough that I basically panic anytime anyone comes near me, and I’ve never really known why. Theories abound – I have some baggage – but this makes sense. And now, when my blood pressure tanks, I have noticed that my anxiety gets a lot worse!

(As a side note: this is why a lot of bendy people become sensitised to adrenaline, and why when we are given local anaesthetics containing adrenaline, we freak out. I start shaking and crying like I’ve just been given the most terrible news, right there in the dentist’s chair. It took me a few tries to figure it out, but now I ask if dentists and doctors would please not give me adrenaline if there is any reasonable alternative.)

Back to Low Blood Pressure

Now, the low blood pressure issue is why I was ending up completely benched after running. Intense exercise necessitates muscle recovery and repair; and that process demands blood. And when you’ve got low blood pressure, and the blood is being redirected elsewhere, well, it’s not getting to your brain.

It wasn’t tissue damage. There’s no actual evidence from actual scientific studies to suggest that high impact exercise like running is going to be a problem for me in the long term. As long as I’m careful and try to avoid injury, I should be fine. I probably shouldn’t take up any contact sports where I’m going to fall over a lot, but I can run.

I can run.

Three Treatments for Low Blood Pressure in Bendy People

1) Get Moving

Exercise is encouraged. It helps raise blood pressure overall, and that’s probably why I’ve found it so helpful on a shitty fatigue day to just go for a walk. It probably takes about 5-10 minutes before I stop feeling like death, but then everything picks up and I start to feel human again. The problem is that for a lot of people who have been struggling with this for a long time, all they’ve learned is that exercise wipes them out and they feel dreadful – so they don’t move at all. However, a slow increase in activity – 20% a week is about what’s recommended – can help raise your baseline blood pressure. Just be very careful not to overdo it (obviously, the right exercise can be helpful for joint support as well, so it’s two birds and one stone).

Given my activity levels – which are pretty high – the specialist said that this wasn’t really a problem for me. I was doing the right things there, particularly as regards physiotherapy, clinical pilates and weights.

2) Granny Knickers, Corsets and Girdles

After exercise, we move on to the next solution: compression garments. Blood tends to pool in the large blood vessels in the abdomen, so it needs to be something that compresses that area.

Essentially, we’re talking shapewear. High waisted granny knickers, girdles, or under-bust corsets (waist shapers) fit the bill. They have to be tight, really tight, to raise blood pressure. Gentle compression to smooth outlines under a dress is not going to cut it.

You shouldn’t wear it lying down (blood will pool in your thorax, not desired), but if you’re up and about a lot, it’s worth giving it a go. I’ve bought a couple of items to experiment and yeah, it helps. It really helps. It’s like I can just let out a breath and relax, as though I don’t have to try so hard to be upright. I didn’t even know I was trying that hard!

They’re not always the most comfortable things, and I have Crohn’s Disease and chronic abdominal pain: compressing my abdomen has consequences (basically an increase in pain!). So I have to pace myself on these.

The other issue for me personally is that the very concept of shapewear – or at least, the way it’s marketed, to try and standardise women’s (and men’s) body shapes – kind of triggers a wee bit of feminist frustration. And yet, very functional garments!

3) Drugs, drugs, all the drugs

Then there’s the final step: medication. You can’t take medication to fix your collagen, or repair your autonomic dysfunction, but what you can do is take medication to raise your blood pressure. These generally fall into two categories: the first increases your blood volume by causing you to retain water, and the second encourages more vasoconstriction (given that your collagen is bad at it, but not necessarily non-functional).

I’ve opted for that second category. I instinctively shy away from the notion of retaining water on purpose. I have a uterus, I know what fluid retention feels like, and I want no fucking part of it, thank you very much (not that I have any evidence that it feels the same). I don’t deal with it well. However, that category of drugs does work very well for a lot of people. I just don’t want to add it to my slew of unrelated hormonal issues.

Where am I at?

How’s it working?

It’s working well. Really. It’s much easier for me to stay awake and upright. I can sit up at my  computer in the evening without wanting to just drag my laptop to bed. I don’t crash after intense workouts in the same way.

Combine this with my ADHD meds and… I’m starting to bear a dangerously close resemblance to a functional human being. None of these meds are magical. I still forget things, even though I have my ADHD meds, and get distracted; I still get really sad, even though I’m on Zoloft for depression; and I still get a bit lightheaded sometimes, even though I’m on vasoconstrictors (although I suspect that’s because they’ve worn off – a dose only lasts four hours, supposedly, and I’m pretty sure I don’t even get that long).

There’s so much more I could write about this. It’s an extremely complex condition and it touches on various aspects of my life, many of which I haven’t even listed or described here. Numerous pains and aches and weirdnesses (like that coat hanger pain that is very unpleasant and I always thought I’d just tensed my upper back and jaw too much) now have an explanation.

I no longer feel like a sooky lala for getting too cold or too hot when other people don’t, or for having sensitive teeth at the dentist, or for needing to lie down at short notice. I just take the assistance I need, and move on.

So. Here I am. ADHD, Crohn’s Disease, Hypermobility Syndrome: fully diagnosed and treatment in progress for all of them. Finally. It’s been a long fucking road.

But I think I can see the end of it.

Postscript: as a side note, while it’s not widely diagnosed or well understood, joint hypermobility is actually extremely common in the population, especially in women. If some of these symptoms sound familiar to you – and I’ll write another post with a few others that might pop up – it’s worth getting it checked out. At the bare minimum, you need a lying down vs. standing up blood pressure/heart rate test.